"Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength, mastering yourself is true power" - Lao-Tzu
Yesterday in English class, we talked about our own "shadows". My teacher explained that when we were young children, our parents most likely told us encouraging things like "You're so much calmer than other children. You're the best." or "You're so much more outgoing that the other children. You're the best". These adjectives are opposites. So while the calm child is rewarded for being calm, they are also being told not to be outgoing. While the outgoing child is rewarded for being outgoing, he or she is also being told not to be calm. These things that "we are not" become our shadows. Our feelings towards people that represent our shadows fall into one of two categories, both of which are intense. You either find yourself being incredible bothered and annoyed by these people, or you fall in love with them. Remember, opposites attract! In class we were asked to make a T-Chart of what we are and what we are not. Below is my chart.
I am I am not
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* strong *weak
* rule-follower *funny
*clumsy *focused
* smart *outgoing
*forgetful *productive
*stubborn *a quitter
*quiet *wild
*determined *troublemaker
After class, I decided to take a personality test to see how well it matches up with the list I made. The results from this test told me I had the personality type ISTJ. All personality types fit into four 'temperments'. I was classified as a Guardian, and more specifically, an Inspector. An Inspector in a nutshell is superdependable, responsible, patient, dedicated, quiet, are most likely involved in community service, and follow the rules. As I read the description of an Inspector, it mentioned that because these people follow the rules, they are often musjudged as "having ice in thier veins" or "being hard-hearted". I couldn't stop laughing as I read this because my dad is always saying I'm cold-hearted. Most of the description was amazingly similar to the list I developed in class. Keep in mind that I had about 5 minutes to compile this list. While I seem to know myself pretty well, I still find it's helpful to read a description about yourself. Some personality traits seemed annoying as I read about them, and now I realize that other people that have a different personality than me might think so too. I encourage everyone to take this test and find out more about themselves. Improving your understanding of yourself can help you maintain the relationships you have and your relationship with yourself.
